The transformative power of tantra to change the perception of sexuality

In modern society, perceptions of sexuality tend to swing between sacred reverence and stigmatized taboo. This swing is largely influenced by cultural, moral, and medical perspectives that designate certain sexual behaviors as undesirable or harmful. These taboos, while rooted in necessary concerns for ethics and well-being, can sometimes lead to misconceptions and unwarranted feelings of guilt or shame about natural sexual desires. Tantra, a practice rooted in ancient Hindu and Buddhist traditions, presents a way to reconcile these conflicts through acceptance and transformation.

Sexual taboos are not merely arbitrary restrictions. Taboos are often critical components of the moral and social fabric of communities. Based on deeply held social norms and ethical considerations, they can serve to protect individuals and communities from harmful practices such as incest, bestiality, necrophilia, or pedophilia. Sigmund Freud, in Totem and Taboo, explores how these prohibitions form part of the collective consciousness and moral framework of a society.

However, not all aspects of sexuality considered taboo are inherently negative. Issues such as the rejection of sexual pleasure, strict gender roles, and abstinence-only education often stem from historical prejudices and misunderstandings rather than a genuine concern for well-being (Foucault, 1978). It is in this context that Tantra can play a transformative role.

Tantra: A Path to Sexual Acceptance and Enlightenment

Tantra is often mistakenly considered to be a purely sexual practice, but its true essence is much deeper. Tantra transcends this common distortion, as it represents a profound spiritual journey involving meditation, breathwork, and movement to expand consciousness and spiritual energy (Samuel, 2008). In some traditions, sexual practices are incorporated, which can dissolve the barriers of guilt and shame surrounding sexuality.

One of the fundamental teachings of Tantra is the sanctity of all aspects of human existence, including sexuality, regarding sexual energy as a vital force for health, happiness, and spiritual growth (White, 2003). This perspective challenges the traditional view of sex as shameful. By adopting this view, long-held misinterpretations of sex as merely dirty or shameful can be challenged.

Transformative Effects of Tantric Practices

Tantric practices encourage a respectful, consensual, and in-depth exploration of sexuality, with the goal of purifying sexual perception by:

1. Demystifying sexuality: Tantra serves as a platform for education about the body, desires, and sexual health, dispelling myths and fostering a healthier, more informed understanding of sexuality (Douglas & Slinger, 1979).

2. Healing emotional wounds: Many people carry emotional scars from past experiences that influence their sexual relationships. Tantric practices can help release these emotional blocks, encouraging healing and allowing for deeper intimacy (Odier, 2001).

3. Promoting a holistic connection: Unlike the often fragmented or limited view of sex in the modern context, tantra proposes a holistic approach. It integrates the physical, emotional, spiritual and mental aspects of sexual relationships, enhancing the overall experience and thus forging stronger relationships (Urban, 2003).

4. Tantra shows that sexual pleasure is not just a physical experience, but also an emotional and spiritual journey. By elevating the act to something sacred, it shifts the focus from shame to celebration, fostering a healthy acceptance of sexual pleasure as a natural part of human life (Dyczkowski, 1987).

Conclusion

Tantra offers a profound framework for transforming negative perceptions of sexuality into a holistic and honest appreciation. While societies are burdened and confused by social taboos and lack of education, tantra can provide an honest exploration of sexuality through better self-understanding and connection with others. Embracing Tantra redefines the relationship with sexuality, transcending misconceptions caused by fear and ignorance to become an expression of mutual respect and a celebration of the complexity and beauty of life.

Deva Prem – Tantric Teacher and Sexologist